Flattering Or Fattering…
Up until the last few years I wouldn’t have worn anything like this as I would’ve considered that it wasn’t flattering because it doesn’t fit closely to my figure.
That’s changed over the last couple of years for a few different reasons – my work life changed, I dealt with breast cancer, I was influenced by Instagram and finally – I cut myself some slack!!
When I was working my preference was always to wear professional and highly tailored clothing, with the exception of Friday’s when I would coin the “fifties Friday” concept and I’d wear one of my 1950’s retro looks.
Now I wear an eclectic style of whatever I like, including this oversized distressed jumper, and I thought I would show you both ways I’ve worn it of late – and probably neither of them is what I would say was particularly flattering on my curvy hourglass figure, but that’s ok with me!
The Case Of The COVID Kilos …
I think even my chin gained 10 kilos this year with all the stuff going on – we’ve lived almost the whole of the twentieth century in six months, what with bushfires at our doorstep, COVID-19, Chinese trade problems and Black Lives Matter. All of these things have their value for us but it’s definitely taken it’s toll on my body, along with six surgeries in under 18 months.
I remain optimistic about the outcome of all of the above and have happily lost two or three kilos since these pics were taken a few weeks ago – I had to really knock out my cakes and get better sleep. I am not being hard on myself because conditions have been extraordinary and the amount of space I take up isn’t anyone else’s business, but I feel more comfortable within myself when I’m at my usual weight.
Back in the day, this would’ve been a major catastrophe for me so I’m glad I’ve grown to love myself and my body regardless of external conditions because this was seriously lacking before and it seemed that nothing was ever good enough for the perfectionist in me.
It’s just terrible that it took me to get breast cancer and go through the journey of treatment, including mastectomy, before I got it!!
In both of these looks I was going for a cosy, snuggle-down, comfortable look. I wore both looks out – one to get my reiki, crystal chakra balancing and healing, and the other we were going to have some lunch out, but oops!! Nowhere open! So it was back to Donna’s Kitchen …
It’s hard to see in the pants, but they have a yellow in the tartan so I co-ordinated the scarf and jacket with that. These little booties are quite old but I felt they were perfect with the jumper and they’re very comfortable even to wear around the house rather than my uggs … lol!
I like to wear the shoulder dropped down for a bit of extra oomph and I wanted to make sure that the waist wasn’t too baggy so did the French tuck on the pants and with the skirt I used an old wide belt with the grooviest of buckles to cinch the waist. I was pretty happy with the result!
I was surprised that I like the skirt outfit because there’s volume in both the skirt and the top, however; I feel it works for a really lovely look even if I don’t look as slim as I could. The thing is that people have made comment and observation on my body from the time I was very young, which I absorbed, and it has not been a pleasant experience or outcome.
I still work to change the narrative but it’s a work in progress.
Thank you for joining me in my little corner of the web!
TamaraJune 17, 2020 at 8:42 pm
I do adore those cute pants, and the blue shawl is lovely. 👗 👖 👠
donnadoesdressesJune 17, 2020 at 10:12 pm
Thank you – I love this style of pants because it’s very comfortable but still interesting, especially in the tartan and the long grey vest is good for wrapping up in when it’s a chilly day here!!
Hope you’re having a good week!
Kim VardasJune 19, 2020 at 5:58 pm
You look great both ways you styled your jumper. As a fellow hourglass I totally understand everything you said. It’s definitely A process to change years of beating ourselves up over our weight or figure. You look amazing my friend, don’t ever let anyone convince you otherwise 😘😘😘
donnadoesdressesJune 19, 2020 at 10:20 pm
Oh thank you so much, dear Kim!! And it’s so good to hear from you here!! Thank you for the positive reinforcement – as you know I always admire your figure and the way you always present is always top notch!! It’s just so annoying that people in the real world think they have any right to comment on another’s body and I’m glad that I’ve learnt to accept myself somewhat … finally!! Hope you have a lovely weekend, Kim!!
Vanity And Me StyleJune 21, 2020 at 9:45 pm
I’ve gained a few pounds during lock-down too Donna. I don’t like it on my body but boy it’s puffed the wrinkles out and my face looks better for it! I like this more relaxed style on you. Its all about the way its styled and you do it perfectly xx
donnadoesdressesJune 21, 2020 at 9:48 pm
That’s just a perfect thing to say – I would so love to sit and have a cuppa with you, Laurie!! Mum always used to say – you get to an age where it’s your face or your bottom!!
Thank you for your lovely comment, Laurie, and have a great new week!! 🧚♀️❤️🐝
LizzieJune 22, 2020 at 7:08 am
AHHH! You look incredible!
donnadoesdressesJune 22, 2020 at 9:22 pm
Aww!! You’re so kind to me, Lizzie – I so appreciate your lovely comments!! Hope you have a good week!!
Omaye AdukuJune 22, 2020 at 6:04 pm
You look great regardless of what ever weight you’ve put on! You are rocking it!
I love how you styled the sweaters especially the first look with the skirt! Waist belts definitely change how an outfit looks and you look amazing (as usual.
Wishing you the best!
donnadoesdressesJune 22, 2020 at 9:24 pm
What a beautiful, thoughtful and kind comment!! It’s good to be a bit relaxed and just enjoy a cosy outfit. Have a wonderful new week!
Autumn ZenithJune 24, 2020 at 11:55 pm
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, incredible personal style, and joyful spirit with us, dear Donna.
I think that these outfits are both fabulous and becoming, though can relate as a fellow hourglass (with a touch of pear on the bottom half) to the challenges you mentioned and the desire to avoid volume on both halves of one’s body at the same time. I think you pulled doing so off superbly in the fuller ensemble and can easily see myself taking a page from your sartorial playbook there when the temps drop around these parts once more (which likely won’t be for 2 – 2.5 more months).
Huge hugs & the happiest of wishes for a wonderful tail of June coming your way.
Autumn Zenith 🧡 Witchcrafted Life
donnadoesdressesJune 25, 2020 at 9:53 pm
I’m so glad you enjoyed the post, Autumn and that you get what I’m talking about when it comes to volume and weight and so on!
Thank you for your insights and fun response and I wish you a super end to June and a positive July while you enjoy long, warm days!!
indianeskitchenJune 26, 2020 at 4:44 am
I love the way this lays off the shoulder. Beautiful Christmas cactus Donna.
donnadoesdressesJune 26, 2020 at 10:06 pm
Oh thank you dear Diane – I really enjoy the cosy look!! Hope you’re doing ok and that you have a great weekend!!
Catarina MoraisJune 29, 2020 at 9:55 pm
You look fabulous in all of them, to be honest! 🙂 x
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donnadoesdressesJune 30, 2020 at 7:19 am
Thank you for your very kind comment, Catarina – and wish you the best for the rest of the week!! I will check in on your insta!! 🧚🏻♀️❤️🐝